Mistakes

 Photo by: Peter Constantinople

Photo by: Peter Constantinople

You will make mistakes. You will make mistake, after mistake, after mistake. You are human. The truth is, it’s in your nature. You are a NATURAL being, not a PERFECT one. You have ebbs and flows. You have high moments and low moments. You have moments of expression and moments of deconstruction. You also have periods of transition and transmutation between the two polarities; Just as the seasons have summer (expression) and winter (deconstruction), and spring, and fall (the two transitional periods in between).

So, the question isn’t, “How do I prevent myself from making another mistake?” Rather, “How can I shift the way I react to a mistake I make, to better serve my personal growth?”

First, it’s vital to become aware of how you organically respond to your own mistake making. Do you beat yourself up over it (psychologically or physically)? Do you brush it off as though it were no big deal? Is making a mistake thrilling to you? Is it the last thing on earth you’d ever want to do? Take some time for self inquiry to explore your relationship with making mistakes.

Next, consider how or why your relationship with making mistakes came to be as it is. Often, these sort of relationships are habitual, and engrained in us from a young age. Ask yourself, as you were growing up, how did the people around you respond to making mistakes? Did they feel it was okay for them to make a mistake? Did they get angry or sad when they made a mistake? Did they never express any emotions at all over making mistakes?

Doing this work, this self inquiry, is not only necessary if you wish to have a clearer or higher quality relationship with yourself, but, it’s also necessary if you wish to change your patterns. Unpacking and looking at your patterns for what they truly are, and where they came from, takes away some of their power from you. Like an ice pick to a glacier: little by little, the more light of awareness you shed on your habits, you pick away, bit by bit, at their control over you.

It won’t prevent you from making a mistake ever again. However, it may limit your potential for making the same mistake twice. Because once you are armed with this greater level of awareness, chances are, you’ll catch yourself before you fall.